Share the holidays

One of the key ingredients to a Marriage is compromise.

Cameron and I were married in June of this year and with the arrival of the two major holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas, we are figuring out how to fairly divide our time with each family.

After much discussion amongst ourselves, we’ve come to the conclusion that this year we are spending Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas day with mine. Christmas eve will be divided between both families. Next year we will switch days, spending Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas day with his.

Since this is our first time doing this there may be some alterations, especially in the future when we have children to take into consideration. For now this will probably be the fairest way to distribute time so that we see everyone without having to drive back and forth too much.

There have been couples I know or have known where one of the individuals takes over every holiday and makes their family the priority. In certain situations this might be ok, but is important to talk about it and see how your significant other is feeling. Remember this is not just you and yours in this relationship, but they and theirs as well. Think of their feelings as well as that of their parents, siblings, grandparents and so forth.